问些别的吧

每年佳节到外公家过节都会被阿姨舅舅们问：你找到男朋友了吗？今年，我和男朋友回去。他们问：你们几时结婚呀？当我说没这么快时，他们却又因为我年纪不小了说：要快呀。
其实这些个问题主要围绕着一个中心点，那就是结婚就要生子，而34的我已经超出最佳生育的年龄。特别是阿姨们特别担心我不能生一子半女。
可是，婚姻不是有个孩子就会幸福。这两者不能成正比。为了生子而结婚，或因为到了该结婚生子的年龄而去结，这只是孩子不幸的开始。因为这样的夫妇有可能还不够了解对方、还没有培养深厚的感情就在一起了。万一生了孩子，两人世界多了一人，挑战大了就失去平衡。更糟的是以威胁孩子争吵的方式解决问题，孩子可是会遭殃的。
我还是好好的和我的男友好好相处学习，时间到了才结婚吧。
我想和阿姨舅舅们说：你们还是问别的吧。

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