拥有爱，在被伤害过，又伤害过别人后。

读着陶晶莹的《我爱故我在》。她说她和老公最终会在一起是因为大家都曾被伤害，也曾伤害过别人。大家经历这一切后，学会了珍惜。然后恰巧遇见了对方。

是啊，两个人的相遇，能不能冒出火花，能不能相知相惜，本身就是一个奇迹。天时地利人和，缺一不可。

很多年以前，总觉得会有很多明天。年轻的岁月似乎没有尽头。永远不怕迟，也不怕老（笑）。可是，总不明白有些人离开了我的人生，是真的永远失去了。太相信这些人只是我生命的过客，从不相信他们会留下。即使不留下，我的人生也会有其他精彩的人和物。不相信-根据万物吸引力，最终他们都没有留下。

正如陶晶莹说的，在感情上，寻寻觅觅。我伤害了无数人，也被无数人伤害过。这样的情节断断续续。直到我愿意学会珍惜拥抱“拥有”，而那个也愿意珍惜和拥抱的人遇见我后，我们才会拥有彼此。这时的我们才会更了解彼此的重要性和彼此的需要，更无怨无悔的在一起。

每个人经历这些阶段的时间不一样，所以要慢慢熬。虽然你很想他是你的那个人，偏偏他却不在你的阶段，看不见你。即使看见了，他可能想着未来的另一个他/她。

（这次，如果我遇见了他，我希望他也遇见了。）

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